Journey through Bereavement

Journey through Bereavement

Going through bereavement is sometimes described as a journey. Like a journey, it is a process and so involves changes over time. But, unlike most journeys, it doesn’t really have a clear end point. And even its starting point can sometimes be vague.

Each bereavement journey is unique, affected by many things, including:

  • the circumstances of the death

  • the relationships of the people involved and

  • the personality and past experiences of the person who has been bereaved.

The process of bereavement takes longer for some people than for others. The bereavement journey may be longer if the death:

  • occurred without warning

  • involved a child

  • was particularly horrifying or

  • is not certain or has no clear focus eg if a person has gone missing.

Starting the journey

A sudden, unexpected death means that the start of the bereavement journey is clear. But, when death follows a long illness, the bereavement process may begin gradually, before the person has died.

At the time of a bereavement, people often say they feel numb. They may ‘feel in limbo’ during the time between the death and the funeral. Ordinary life is put ‘on hold’ and they feel as if they are just ‘going through the motions’ of life.

Once friends and relatives have gone home after the funeral, bereaved people can feel especially lonely. Life seems very empty and they often wonder whether they will ever get to feel any better.

Gradually, they start doing ordinary things again, such as returning to work, tackling jobs in the home and dealing with paperwork. But life does not ‘return to normal’. ‘Normal’ has changed forever.

Moving on through the journey

Most bereaved people go through a number of different emotions. But they do not go through them in neat stages. They may move back and forth between a range of feelings.

Bereavement is tiring and can feel like

  • being frightened or

  • involve feelings of shame or guilt or of

  • irritability or downright anger.

Bereavement is natural and many people go through the grief journey with just the support of family and friends. Others value the support of trained counsellors or listeners.


The journey’s end

As time goes on, bereaved people find they can speak of the person who died without tears or deep emotion. They notice their interest in hobbies returning and can look outwards to the world and its possibilities. Eventually, they can laugh and love and find reasons to live again.

Some churches have counsellors who specialise in supporting people after a bereavement. Churches can also point people towards other local bereavement services.

There are many organisations which can help with grief, these are just a few:

Care for the Family
Bereavement UK
Child Bereavement Charity
Child Death Helpline – there to listen to and support anyone affected by the death of a child.

Grief encounter – which supports children who have lost someone they love

SANDS – Still Birth & Neonatal Death charity

Winston’s Wish – a charity for bereaved children

Pastoral Reaching Out (PRO) Team

Psalms 27:17
The Church & Pastors Council (CPC) under the direction of the Pastor have set up a Pastoral Reaching Out Team. The purpose of the PRO Team is to provide pastoral care and spiritual support during the period of lock down by the Government.

We are focusing on the more mature and vulnerable members of our Church family to ensure they are safe and secure. We are aware that many of our brethren in addition to the ministers, CPC, heads of departments and the visiting team having been contacting brethren and visitors to offer support and good wishes – please continue to do so during this unprecedented time of global unrest.

If you have any questions or queries regarding the PRO Team, please contact Sis. Charlotte Johnson at

Pro Team  & Bereavement Cafe

Email: •  Tel: 020 8459 7674

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